One of our family traditions growing up was breakfast on Christmas morning. As a child, my grandparents used to come over for waffles and bacon and all the other breakfast stuff after we had opened presents. Over the years, family friends would join in the mix if they weren't going home to see their families. It was like our version of Christmas Dinner, complete with the fine china and white tablecloths, but in the morning. And, in pajamas.
Since my sister has been married and had children we've had breakfast at their house. We usually bring something over and my mom makes the waffles.
Well, in early November when we were figuring our Thanksgiving plans I offered to host Christmas breakfast at our house. My sister has mentioned in years past they feel rushed that we're coming over and that their house is small (it's smaller than ours since there's no formal dining room, but it's not small).
So, I've been really looking forward to having everyone at our house. I'd been thinking of what I can make, other than waffles and bacon, and looking forward to using some of our serving pieces we haven't pulled out yet. I mean it is Christmas.
Well, last night she changed her mind and wants to have it at her house again. And, guess what? She's got kids, so she always gets the last say. On every holiday.
So, no Christmas breakfast at our house. I'm not gonna lie, I'm really disappointed. And, aggravated. I'll get over it, but right now, I'm pretty upset about it.
Edited to Add: I've decided to let it go this year. It's too close to Christmas, and trust me when I say it will upset me more than her to keep bringing it up. But, I am going to let everyone know I am disappointed and I expect to host next year.
My mom even gave me a little house gift since she thought I was hosting both Thanksgiving and Christmas and knew it would be work. So sweet of her, but now I feel guilty keeping it.
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I would talk to her about it, because even though she has kids, you should get to have it at your house too. I would leave it alone for this year, but maybe bring it up after the holiday is over (so there's no chance of a fight ruining the day). But do it nice and early so that she can get used to the idea. And let her know how much you would really like to do it- for yourself. Making it seem like you want to do it for her won't make her understand how much you want to do it for your own benefit. Good luck, I hope you cheer up soon.
Oh no! That is very disappointing. I don't blame you for being upset about it. It's so nice that you were looking forward to hosting everyone, and that would have been really special.
On another note, did you get your tree decorated? I bet it looks nice! I hope your day improves after this frustrating news from your sister.
Ah, I'm sorry. How frustrating.
Girl, you are singing my song. My older sister has kids but isn't into cooking and entertaining in the same way I am. BUT because she has kids everything has to be made easy for them. I get upset and say, what if I never have kids??? Will I never count? I think (well at least in my case) that my family feels that holidays are more about the kids than anyone else and I don't feel that way.
Maybe you should talk to your sister and tell her that you already planned for it and were looking forward to it. Maybe she can try it at your house this year and if it's a big inconvenience, next year you'll go back to doing it at her house. How could she say no to that?
Now, i have an excellent recipe for you. It's baked french toast. You prepare it the night before and bake it in the morning. It's awesome, everyone loves. it. It's on my blog if you're interested.
Sweet Sara! I am so sorry. I totally feel for you. That is such a disappointment. I hope you are able to talk to her and let her know how much this means to you. No kids is no reason to not get to celebrate at your place! Wishing you a joyful afternoon.... Lots of love girl!
I'm so sorry, Sara! I had a problem similar to this at Thankgiving. I host Thankgiving every.single.year. I love it; it's one of the highlights of my year. I cook everything, have the meal planned down to the second, house decorated, etc. Well, my cousin (the closest I'm ever going to get to a sister) decides she wants to host.
Well, the night before Thanksgiving she calls me and says that she's hosting - but I need to do ALL the cooking. I was expecting to make some side dishes, but to have to do all the cooking in an unfamiliar kitchen was really frustrating.
OK, I just wrote a novel...so I'll hush up now.
I'm so sorry! I think that stinks. I mean, I understand the necessity of catering to those with young children, but I would think at this late in the game, they would have just agreed to have it at your house. Especially knowing how much you love to cook and host. :( I think your mom would want you to keep the present nonetheless.
nice post. thanks.
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