If you follow me on Twitter you know that my in-laws are coming to visit over the next two weeks. Father-in-law is coming in tomorrow and staying until Monday and Mother-in-law is coming in on Tuesday and we're not sure how long she's staying. It's good that they don't overlap since there always seems to be tension when they're together. (I should let you know they've been divorced since my husband was a baby.)
So, I was going to write about the relationships I have with my in-laws but I'm having a really hard time putting it into words. You know how you just click with some people and not with others?
My husband is an only child and so I should never be surprised when his family dynamics differ from mine ( I have two siblings). But, often times I am and I'm not sure if I'll ever get used to it. I know, I know, it's not even been a year, right?
Where is this going? I don't know, honestly, maybe it's just that I really wanted to try to wrap my mind around why I get tense when my in-laws come to visit. They are perfectly nice people, I just really like my routine and it does stress me out when it's crazy in my home. I get edgy when there are feet on furniture and the TV is always on and other stupid stuff like that. I know, I'm weird. And, I've accepted it. (Hopefully my husband has too!) And for some reason I feel like it will be seen as me being rude when I go to have dinner with a girlfriend on Friday night, except that it was planned before the trip to visit was. (See? Why am I feeling guilty about that?)
Anyone have tips on how to host house guests and not let it stress you out? I'd love to know what they are.
I hope this wasn't too scatterbrained! :)
2 comments:
I think that you should accept that your routine will be thrown off a bit hopefull not too much. Do you work? Will you be home with them while your husband is at work? Will he be home? What do they expect to do while they are there. Are they the type of people who like to keep busy or are they homebodies? Is this the first time they are visiting? Are they coming a great distance? I have a hundred questions to ask and then can give you an answer. Email me if you want!
Ah, there are so many variables.... If you don't see them often, then you may need to just disrupt your usual routine for the duration of their stay(s). But, if they visit pretty often - I think you should stick to your routine. Ultimately, they are family and there should be less expectation that you need to "entertain" them.
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