I'm having a Pity Party

Actual Convo last night:

Husband: I think I have to travel next week.

Me: Are you going to be gone on my birthday? (He was gone last year and forgot to even call me until almost 8pm! So, I've been pushing for something special this year.)

H: I don't think so, I'll be back Thursday.

Me: Um, my birthday is on Wednesday.

H: No it's not, it's on Thursday. Besides, it's just a day.

Me: Yeah, my day! You were gone last year. (This was said very sadly, you should know.)

H: Well, I'll be back by Thursday.

Me: But my birthday is on Wednesday. May 6. Remember?

H: No, May 1 is Saturday.

Me: (showing him a calendar) Nope, May 1 is Friday.

H: Oh, well, is it that big of a deal. By the way, do you want an ACL ticket for your gift? (He knows it's a big deal. He dropped the ball last year. I only got one birthday engaged and it's our first being married. Yes, this birthday is BIG deal.I am very sentimental about these things.)

Me: That's not a birthday gift! I already said if you want to go, we'll go, but I want an actual birthday present. One you put some thought into. I've given you some ideas.

H: I think that's a good gift.

Me: The whole point of a birthday gift is for the person's whose birthday it is to think it's a good gift. For you to spend a little time picking out something you think I'll like.

H: I'm tired, good night.

Me: (silence. I'm too disappointed to continue fighting for why he should think my birthday is important.)


I should close by saying I've always been a "day of" person when it comes to my birthday. Last year, I wouldn't have minded if he were gone if he'd called first thing in the morning to wish me a good day or sent some flowers (or fruit for that matter). Something to show he didn't just forget that it was my birthday.

Oh, what's a girl to do?


Edited to add: Husband just called me; he is traveling next week. He will be gone on my day. He thinks I'm mad. I'm not mad, just disappointed because I know I'll be by myself and he'll likely not plan ahead. I wonder if it's too late to rally the girls together. I hope I don't come off as pathetic when I do.